Relationship Advice - Sex and Dating at Christian Colleges

Contributed by: Jennifer

The decision to go to college is one that will benefit you for the rest of your life, and choosing the right college will not only help you in the present but it will also help your future success. If you choose to attend a Christian or a religious college you will need to prepare yourself for any rules and regulations that concern dating that the college may have.

Many colleges have certain expectations when it comes to dating or the opposite sex. College should be a very fun and enriching time, but keeping yourself safe as well as focused on your studies is really the most important thing you can do. Just like traditional colleges and universities, you will probably receive a handbook either before you arrive or just after you arrive outlining the school’s expectations of you.

Some Christian colleges are stricter when it comes to dating than others. Schools with stricter dating policies may not allow you to have any unsupervised contact with the opposite sex. If you find someone that you would be interested in dating you may have to have a chaperone with you while you go out on your date. There are certain Christian universities that require so much segregation between opposite sexes that there may actually be different stair wells or elevators that have to be used by students.

While this may seem like very strict rules and regulations, the college merely has your best interest in mind. They want to make sure that you focus on your growth and maturity as a student as well as an individual.

For students that attend Christian colleges that have less strict dating policies you may find that you will not be allowed to have members of the opposite sex in your dorm room and for the first year you may not be allowed to date or leave campus without direct authorization from the dean or your advisor.

It may seem like dating at a Christian college or university might be pretty hard to accomplish, but in all actuality you can successfully find someone to start a relationship with. There are clubs and organizations that you can join. Many campuses also have a Christian singles networking group or organization that you can join.

Your first year in college (no matter what school you choose) needs to be focused on your studies first and foremost. Your second goal should be to grow in your faith and third you defiantly want to add some growth to your social life while you are at college. This does not mean that you have to dive into dating relationships though. Try to establish yourself with a good large group of people. You will meet a variety of people all with the same goal that you have.

Dating will come naturally to you at a Christian college just like at any other school, but remember what the rules and regulations are that your particular school expects you to follow. You may be able to come and go as you please or your school may limit the amount of time you can spend with one person in particular.

So what happens if you break the rules? Many colleges have a demerit system or a warning system. Many also have amnesty programs that allow you to come forward with any infractions you may have committed but were not caught. These programs will often allow you start over with a clean slate; however you will be watched to make sure that you are not taking advantage of the situation. No matter what, remember you college years will be educational and fun as long as you follow what they expect of you.


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Valarie's picture

Thanks for the information.

Great article, thanks!